Decrease Text SizeIncrease Text SizeFacebookTwitterYoutubeInstagramLinkedIn


Resources – Siblings

Kaitlin Atkinson Family Resource Library

CHEO                                                       Printer Friendly Version
401 Smyth Rd., Ottawa, ON K1H 8L1
Follow us @CHEOfrl

Sibling Rivalry

Siblings of a Special Needs Child

Siblings and Autism

Siblings and Mental Illness

Siblings and Grief

Siblings and Cancer

Siblings and Chronic Illness

Web Sites

Local Contacts

Sibling Rivalry

Franklin and the baby -- Toronto: Kids Can Press, 1999.
When Franklin's best friend, Bear, gets a new baby sister, Franklin also feels like a proud big brother.
FAM BF 723 .S43 F72

Il prend toute la place! / Broere, Rien. -- Montréal: Éditions École active, 1997. 
Miriam est jalouse de l’attention que ses parents prêtent à son nouveau petit frère
FAM BF 723 .S43 B76

Jalousies et rivalités entre frères et sœurs / Faber, Adele – Paris: Stock, 1998.
Tout le long du livre, on apprend à encourager les comportements de coopération et à faire naître une attitude de bonne volonté entre frères et sœurs.
FAM BF 723 .S43 F314

Keep the siblings, lose the rivalry: 10 steps to turn your kids into teammates / Cartmell, Todd – Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2003.
This guide uses role-plays, Scripture references, and interactive discussion questions to improve children's skills at handling sibling rivalry.
FAM BF 723 .S43 C37 2003

My sister Beth's pink birthday: a story about sibling relationships / Szymona, Marlene L. -- Washington: Magination Press, 2015.
This picture book aims to help young children deal with the issue of sibling rivalry and sharing within the context of a birthday celebration. It describes how to build up a healthy, solid and durable relationship between siblings.
FAM BF 723 .S43 S98 2015

The new baby / Civardi, Anne. -- London, U.K.: Usborne Publishing, 2000.
This book follows the Bunn family as they prepare for the new baby, visit the baby in the hospital, and bring the new baby home. Appropriate for Ages: 4-8 years.
FAM BF 723 .S43 C58

Siblings: you're stuck with each other, so stick together / Crist, James J.; Elizabeth Verdick; Steve Mark. -- Minneapolis, MN: Free Spirit Pub., 2010.
Full-color illustrations and humorous, kid-friendly text teach kids how to cope with problems of fairness, jealousy, conflict, tattling, privacy, and other things that can make having siblings so difficult.  Kids learn how to cope with a new baby in the home and how to handle special situations such as siblings with special needs, step-siblings, and adopted siblings.
FAM BF 723 .S43 C75 2010

Back to Top

Siblings of a Special Needs Child

Being the other one: growing up with a brother or sister who has special needs / Strohm, Kate – Boston, MA: Shambhala, 2005.
This book reveals the difficulties faced by siblings at all stages of life, from early childhood through adulthood, when siblings must often assume responsibility for the care of their disabled brothers and sisters. Though the book looks honestly at the many challenges that siblings face, it is full of encouragement and practical strategies.
FAM HV 888 .S77 2005

Brothers and sisters of children with disabilities / Burke, Peter – London: Jessica Kingley, 2003.
Examining the overlooked subject of non-disabled siblings in families where there is a disabled child, this book details the experiences of these children and explores what it means to them to have a disabled brother or sister. Through family interviews and one-to-one meetings, the author records siblings' views on issues ranging from the everyday social restrictions on their lives, the discrimination they face at school, through to their concerns about the future.
FAM HV 888 .B87 2003

Day by day: children tell their journeys of faith and determination living with a sick brother or sister / Frisbee, Christine – New York: Frisbee Foundation Publishing, 2008.
The purpose of this book is to bring understanding and hope to families with a seriously ill child, as well as to educate others about how to take a difficult situation and use it to make you stronger and wiser.
FAM BF 723 .S431 2008

Fighting tackle / Christopher, Matt. -- Boston: Little, Brown, 1995. 
When he becomes stronger but slower, Terry must deal with being moved from defensive safety to offensive tackle on his football team and with the fact that his younger brother, who was born with Down syndrome, is becoming a faster runner. Appropriate for Ages: 9-12 years. 
FAM RJ 506 .D68 C47

My sister is special / Jansen, Larry. -- Cincinnati, Ohio: Standard Publishing, 1998.
By caring for his sister who has Down syndrome, a little boy learns patience and compassion.  Appropriate for ages: 4-8 years
FAM RJ 506 .D68 J36

Ordinary families, special children: a systems approach to childhood disability / Seligman, Milton – New York: The Guilford Press, 2007.
This text provides a multi-systems perspective on childhood disability and its effects on family life. The volume examines how child, family, ecological, and sociocultural variables intertwine to shape the ways families respond to disability, and how professionals can promote coping, adaptation, and empowerment
FAM HV 888.5 S45 2007

The sibling slam book: what it's really like to have a brother or sister with special needs -- Bethesda, MD: Woodbine House, 2004.
This brutally honest, non-PC book looks at the lives, experiences, and opinions of siblings without disabilities. Teenagers who read this book will find common ground among these pages and reassurance that they are not alone. 
FAM HV 888 .S58 2005

Special siblings: growing up with someone with a disability / McHugh, Mary. -- Baltimore: Paul H. Brookes, 2002.
Weaving a lifetime of memories and reflections with relevant research and interviews with more than 100 other siblings and experts, McHugh explores a spectrum of feelings - from anger and guilt to love and pride - and helps readers understand the issues siblings may encounter.
FAM HV 888.5 .M38

We'll paint the octopus red / Stuve-Bodeen, Stephanie. -- Bethesda, MD: Woodbine House, 1998. 
As Emma anticipates the birth of her new brother or sister, she daydreams about all of the things they can do together. When she and her family learn that the new baby has Down syndrome, Emma is reassured that with patience her little brother can still join Emma in whatever they would like to do.
FAM RJ 506 .D68 S7

Back to Top

Siblings and Autism

Mon frère Andre -- Ottawa, ON: DocuLink International, 2006.
FAM RJ 506 .A94 M9214 2006

My brother Andrew -- Ottawa, ON: DocuLink International, 2006.
FAM RJ 506 .A94 M92 2006

My brother Charlie / Robinson Peete, Holly; Peete, Ryan: Scholastic Press, 2010.
Callie is very proud of her brother Charlie. He's good at so many things -- swimming, playing the piano, running fast.  And Charlie has a special way with animals, especially their dog, Harriet.  But sometimes Charlie gets very quiet. His words get locked inside him, and he seems far away. Then, when Callie and Charlie start to play, Charlie is back to laughing, holding hands, having fun. Charlie is like any other boy -- and he has autism. For ages 4-8
FAM RJ 506 .A98 P44 2010

That's life with autism: tales and tips for families with autism -- London: Jessica Kingsley, 2006. 
Each chapter addresses a specific topic, and ranges from the effect of autism in the family on couple or sibling relationships and intervention options to educational issues, diet, and the role of friends and relatives. It also provides starting points for the development of positive strategies, including networks of support in which parents can learn from and find support from others in similar situations.
FAM RJ 506 .A9 T43 2006

Back to Top

Siblings and Mental Illness

How to cope with mental illness in your family: a self-care guide for siblings, offspring, and parents / March, Diane T – New York: Tarcher/Putnam, 1998.
Explores the nature of illnesses such as schizophrenia, major depression, and manic depression, while providing the tools to overcome the devastating effects of growing up or living in a family where they exist. Readers are led through the essential stages of recovery, from revisiting childhood to revising their family legacy, and, ultimately, to reclaiming their life.
FAM RJ 499 .M362

Troubled journey: coming to terms with mental illness of a sibling or a parent / Marsh, Diane T – New York: Penguin Putnam, 1997.
Explores various illnesses, such as manic depression and schizophrenia, and discusses how these illnesses affect other family members, while giving helpful tools and advice for those involved to overcome problems in the homes where such illnesses exist.
FAM RJ 499 .M366

Turbo Max: a story for siblings of children with Bipolar Disorder / Anglada, Tracy. -- Murdock, FL: BPChildren, 2002. 
Rick is advised by his parents and doctors to write his feelings about what it’s like having a sister with bipolar disease. He and his sister spend a lot of time working on his car, Turbo Max, but sometimes there is a lot of frustration. Appropriate for Ages: 8-12 years.
FAM RJ 506 .P69 A537

Back to Top

Siblings and Grief

The empty place: a child's guide through grief / Temes, Roberta. -- Far Hills, NJ: Small Horizons, 1992.
When a nine-year-old boy's beloved big sister dies, he is confused, angry, and fearful. For the first time, he must face the finality of death and the pain of loss. His parents, also grieving, seem distant. Written by a psychologist, this book is an important asset for any counselor, library, or parent trying to help a child cope with death.
FAM BF 575 .G7 T46 1992

Guiding your child through grief / Emswiler, Mary Ann -- New York: Bantam Books, 2000.
This is a caring and compassionate guide for those dealing with children who have lost a parent or sibling, and helping them to heal.
FAM BF 575 .G7 E57

Healing your grieving heart for kids: 100 practical ideas / Wolfelt, Alan D -- Fort Collins, Colo.: Companion Press, 2001.
With sensitivity and insight, this book offers suggestions for healing activities that can help survivors learn to express their grief and mourn naturally.  It provides ideas and action-oriented tips that teach the basic principles of grief and healing.
FAM BF 575 .G7 W645

The worst loss: how families heal from the death of a child / Rosof, Barbara D – New York: Henry Holt & Co., 1994.
FAM BF 575 .G7 R68

Back to Top

Siblings and Cancer

Day by day: children tell their journeys of faith and determination living with a sick brother or sister / Frisbee, Christine -- New York: Frisbee Foundation Publishing, 2008.
The purpose of this book is to bring understanding and hope to families with a seriously ill child, as well as to educate others about how to take a difficult situation and use it to make you stronger and wiser
FAM BF 723 .S431 2008

Hey! What about me? / Ganz, Pam -- Hoffman Estates, IL: SuperSibs!, 2003.
A personal journal for teens and young adults whose brother or sister has cancer. 
FAM RC 262 .G36 2003

Oliver's story: for 'sibs' of kids with cancer / Dodd, Michael -- Kensington, MD: Candlelighters Childhood Cancer Foundation, 2004.
Written through the eyes of six-year-old Oliver, this book focuses on the many questions that siblings have when their brother or sister is diagnosed with cancer, and offers constructive ways that they can provide support.  Appropriate for Ages: 3-8 years.
FAM RC 262 .D6 2004

Upside down and backwards: a sibling's journey through childhood cancer / Greves, Julie. --Washington, DC: Magination Press, 2014.
Follows eighth-grader Bryce as he learns about his sister's cancer and watches his family's focus turn toward her, leaving him feeling left out, jealous, worried, afraid, and confused about the disease.
FAM RC 263 .G64 2014

When someone you love has cancer: a resource for young people -- Canadian Cancer Society, 2003.
This booklet addresses the issues of cancer in the family, what cancer is and cancer treatment for young people. It includes short stories by children who have had a family member experience cancer. 
FAM RC 262 .W53 2003

When your brother or sister has cancer: a guide for teens -- National Cancer Institute, 2005.
In this booklet you will hear from teens who have a brother or sister with cancer, find out what has helped them, get ideas about people to talk with when you're upset or feel all alone and learn a little about cancer and how it's treated.
FAM RC 263 .W548 2005

Back to Top

Siblings and Chronic Illness

Hi, my name is Jack: a book for the healthy siblings of chronically ill children / Beall-Sullivan, Christina. -- Park City, UT: Bopar Books, 2005.
Eight-year-old Jack tells what it is like to have a sister who is chronically ill. Appropriate for ages 4- 8 years.
FAM RJ 380 .B42 2005

My sister Rose has diabetes / Beatty, Monica Driscoll. -- Santa Fe, NM: Health Press, 1997. 
This story describes the impact of diabetes on a ten year old girl and on her older brother. Appropriate for ages 5-10 years.
FAM RJ 420 .D5 B42

When Molly was in the hospital / Duncan Debbie. -- Windsor CA: Rayve Productions Inc., 1994. 
Anna’s little sister Molly needs to go to the hospital for an operation. In this sensitive and emotional story, Anna tells about the experience from her point of view. Appropriate for Ages: 4-8 years.
FAM RJ 242 .D863

Back to Top

Web Sites

Mental Health – Information for Siblings – CHEO / Santé mentale – renseignements pour les frères et les sœurs - CHEO

The Sibling Support Project

Brothers + Sisters: Tools to Help Children When a Sibling is Sick – The Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia

Siblings in the Hospital: Helping your Children Cope – About Kids Health / Hospitalisation d’un frère ou d’une sœur: comment aider votre enfant à s’adapter – About Kids Health

Siblings of Children with Chronic Illnesses – From the American Academy of Pediatrics

Helping the Sibling of the Child with Cancer – Cancer Care for Kids

Jealousy and Sibling Rivalry – From the Manitoba Government

La jalousie entre frères et sœurs - du gouvernement du Manitoba

Brothers, Sisters and Autism: A Parent’s Guide to Supporting Siblings – Organization for Autism Research

Sibling - Autism Society

Help for Kids - The Dougy Center – The National Center for Grieving Children and Families

Helping Siblings through Illness and Bereavement – University of New Mexico Hospitals

Sibling Death and Childhood traumatic Grief: Information for Families – National Child Traumatic Stress Network

Back to Top

Local Contacts

Youth Services Bureau – Mental Health / Services de santé mentale
YSB Mental Health / Pour rejoindre les service en Santé mentale du BSJ 613-562-3004
YSB / BSJ: 613-729-1000
24/7 Crisis Line / ligne de crise 24/7: 613-260-2360

This guide provides medical material for information purposes only and is not intended to replace the advice of your physician. The information may not always apply to your individual situation.

The guide represents material available in the Family Resource Library collection at CHEO. It is not intended to be an exhaustive list. Your local public library may also be able to provide valuable information.

If you require materials in alternative formats, please contact the library at 613-737-7600 ext. 2157 or at

Last Updated: August 2018
Links Tested: August 2018

Take Action


 Kids Health Alliance logo

Improving access to coordinated, consistent, high-quality health care for children, youth and their families. 

Quick Links

Programs & Health Info
magnifying glass

Letter aLetter bLetter cLetter eLetter fLetter g Letter hLetter iLetter jLetter kLetter lLetter mLetter nLetter oLetter pLetter qLetter rLetter sLetter t Letter uLetter vLetter wLetter xLetter yLetter z
Zoomed image Close